Books With Characters In Their 30s

Whether you found this list searching for relatable 30-something main characters or as a participant in the Lifetime of Reading Challenge, we hope you’ll find a perfect read on our list.

One of our main goals for the Lifetime of Reading Challenge is to create understanding and reinforce an appreciation for our fellow humans who are in different phases of life. As a result, in researching books to recommend for this month, we’ve focused primarily (but not exclusively) on contemporary stories with protagonists in their 30s. These current stories can help us all understand what it is to be thirty-something in today’s society, with its unique challenges, pressures, and opportunities.

Our recommended books show a wide range of life experiences during this decade of life. While many of these titles are books with women characters in their 30s, the list also includes a number of wonderful male characters, and the protagonists vary in race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, class, background, lifestyle, and more.

Novels with 30-Something Characters

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Clover had an unusual childhood, with her Kindergarten teacher passing away during a reading of Peter Rabbit. Then, her parents passed away while traveling, and she started a new life with her grandfather in New York City. She continued to be fascinated by death and was studying different cultural traditions abroad when she received the terrible news that her grandfather had passed away alone in his office.

Clover commits to preventing others from dying alone by becoming a death doula. She only takes one patient at a time, so she can be more present for her clients than hospice workers. Whether she’s only holding their hand or hearing their regrets about life, she is present to honor them in their last moments. Her only friend is actually her grandfather’s friend, Leo, who is very concerned that when he is gone, Clover will be alone. Between his friendship-matchmaking and a fiesty new client, can Clover shift her life focus outside of work from the dying to a new life of her own?

The Book Girls Say…

Melissa highly recommends this book for anyone who loves the heart of Fredrik Backman and characters like Eleanor Oliphant or Albert Entwistle, who have been loners for much of their life.

While the concept of the book sounds like it’s heavy on death and grief is a big theme, the novel is very much about life. It’s a rare book that Melissa wanted to read again immediately, while also wanting to give it a hug. Some readers have reported not connecting with Clover, but Melissa adored her and was rooting for her on every page.

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4.5 out of 5
97%
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Hope once dreamed of becoming a lawyer, but at 36, her life doesn’t look at all the way she imagined. Her mother died of cancer, her husband left, her bank account is almost empty, her family bakery on Cape Cod is failing, and she’s raising a troubled preteen on her own.

Now, she’s losing her beloved French-born grandmother, Mamie, to Alzheimer’s. But in a moment of clarity, Mamie is eager to share the secrets of her past before they are gone forever. She reveals mysterious bits and pieces of her tragic history in WWII Paris. With little more than a list of names, Hope sets out for France in hopes of piecing together a seventy-year-old mystery.

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Each chapter begins with delicious recipes for the famous pastries from the Cape Cod bakery.

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Andy is 35 and has just been dumped by longtime girlfriend, Jen. He doesn’t really understand what went wrong, and thinks if he could figure it out, maybe she’d come back to him.

Most of the story is told from his point of view as he realizes that everyone around him grew up and he has been stagnant, waiting for his stand-up career to take off. He’s doing his best to figure out his life, which includes finding a 78-year-old roommate.

While most of the book is told from Andy’s perspective (he’s funny but not always likable), readers really love the switch to showing Jen’s side later in the book as it gives you a more complete understanding of the relationship.

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Dolly Alderton also has a 2020 novel that is a great fit for this prompt. In Ghosts, successful food writer Nina expected her 30s to be liberating, but at 32, she’s finding life quite stressful. She’s been focused on her career and enjoying her younger years, but now it seems everyone is moving on without her. From ex’s finding new love to best friends having babies and leaving London to the suburbs, she feels like her own opportunities for a family are slipping away. 

On top of that, her parents are becoming more of a concern. Her dad is slipping into the grasp of dementia, and her mom is having her own identity crisis.

Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.2 out of 5
96%
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Alice Love is 29, madly in love with her husband, and pregnant with her first child. At least, that’s the last thing she remembers. When Alice wakes up on the floor of the gym and is whisked off to the hospital, she discovers that it’s actually 2008, not 1998, she has three kids, and she’s getting divorced.

As Alice tries to reconstruct what she’s forgotten about the past decade, she also hopes to reconstruct the life she remembers. Ultimately, she’ll have to decide whether she really wants her old life back.

The Book Girls Say…

This book provides an intimate look at life in your 30s from the perspective of a woman who has forgotten hers. If you woke up with no memories of the past 10 years, what would surprise you? How have your relationships changed? Would you have any regrets? Like Liane Moriarty’s other books, this one will have you laughing, but it will also really make you think.

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At thirty-two, Lolly still reflects on how her life is different from what she planned each day as she whips up lemon meringue pies. Ten years ago, her mother died and she had to abandon her dream of opening her own restaurant. Instead, she assumed care of her younger sister, grieving father, and their struggling Seattle diner.

As her birthday approaches, Lolly’s quirky great-aunt gives her three lemon drops, each of which allows her to live a single day in a life that might have been hers. Each experience helps Lolly reconcile her life and what could have been, but also gives her the courage to embrace her current life.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.2 out of 5
95%
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Thirty-two-year-old Helen is recovering from two unfortunately common losses that so many women deal with in their 30s – miscarriage, followed by divorce. Her younger brother wants to help her heal, so he convinces her to attend a wilderness survival course in the Absaroka Mountains of Wyoming. She’s ready to take the time out to pull herself together, but then she finds out that her brother’s annoying best friend will also be on the trip.

In a period of three weeks, she’ll have to face both fears and annoyances, but through those experiences, she also learns more about herself and how to be brave.

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This novel includes an element of contemporary romance mixed with a story of personal growth and discovery. Readers describe this book as an uplifting read. Author Katherine Center based this book (including the mid-summer blizzard) on her experience doing a month-long survival course in Wyoming while she was a college student.

Note: A few of our readers reported what they thought was a geographical error in this book, but after reading the book ourselves, we’ve realized it’s actually not an error at all. The novel references the distance between Boston and Evanston as 1,001 miles. Some readers thought this was a mistake because there is a town in Wyoming named Evanston that is 2,284 miles away from Boston. However, the characters are instead discussing the distance of the first leg of their road trip from Boston to their hometown of Evanston, Illinois, where they stop for the night at Helen’s grandmother’s house before driving another full day and a half to finally arrive in Wyoming.

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Lily is a great writer, has a reliable job, and has great friends. But she’s also 32 and single… which is all her mom can seem to focus on. It’s especially hard to ignore her relationship status when everyone else around her is getting married – she’s scheduled to be a bridesmaid in five weddings in a period of six weeks.

She’ll go to any length for the love of her friends, but she also needs a place to vent. Lily starts an anonymous blog called Bridesmania where she dishes on mom-zillas, wicked bridesmaids, body-shaming dress clerks, and even her 88-year-old Granny (who she’s recently been deemed the guardian of) who prefers to enjoy her morning mimosas in the nude. Of course, we all know that secrets are hard to keep on the internet…

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.2 out of 5
98%
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Book Summary

Alice Island bookstore owner A.J. Fikry is having a terrible 39th year. His wife has died, the store isn’t making enough sales, and his beloved book of Poe poems has been stolen. As a result, he’s cranky and pushing those around him away more than ever. Luckily, he has a few people who look past his curmudgeonly attitude. 

His depression reaches the point that he no longer enjoys books. But, sometimes, life gives you second chances in unexpected ways. For A.J., it’s a small, but heavy, mysterious package that arrives at his shop. As he begins to see the world around him in a new way, those around him can see him in a new way, too.

The Book Girls Say…

The Storied Life of AJ Fikry was also released as a movie. It would be fun to read with a friend and then watch.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

3.9 out of 5
92%
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From the outside, thirty-something couple Nick and Amy seemed to have a picture-perfect marriage. But on their fifth anniversary, Amy goes missing from their rented McMansion in the fictional town of North Carthage, along Missouri’s Mississippi River. Nick quickly becomes the prime suspect. Under the microscope of the resulting police investigation and media frenzy, it becomes apparent that their happy marriage might not have been so happy after all and that Nick – the town’s golden boy – might not be so squeaky clean.

Even as Amy’s fiercely doting parents put more pressure on him, Nick stands by his innocence. But if he didn’t do it, then where is his wife? And what’s in that gift box hidden in the back of Amy’s bedroom closet? Gone Girl combines sharp-edged wit and chilling prose to make reading this book feel like an addiction.

The Book Girls Say…

Although Angela isn’t usually drawn to domestic thrillers, she couldn’t put this book down! One of her friends described it as “dark and morally ambiguous,” and that’s really the perfect summary for this psychological suspense novel. If you love this genre, also consider reading Gillian Flynn’s Sharp Objects (the protagonist, Camille, is also in her 30s).

Although Angela usually loves audiobooks, she wasn’t a fan of the female narrator of Gone Girl at the beginning – or maybe it was just influenced by her feelings about the female protagonist. But once she got further into the story, she enjoyed listening to it. If you’re considering the audiobook, we’d recommend listening to the sample on Amazon before committing to this format.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.0 out of 5
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Writers & Lovers is a classic coming-of-age book about the struggle of an in-debt 31-year-old. She works as a waitress to pay the bills while trying not to give up her bigger dream of writing a novel.

The book is a mix of literary fiction and reality TV as the book follows the main character through every aspect of her daily life as she struggles to find her way as an adult.

The Book Girls Say…

After reading so many reviews from people who found this book boring, we went in skeptical, but we both fell in love with Writers & Lovers. Specifically, we think fans of the movie Reality Bites will enjoy this book!

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As a thirty-seven-year-old book editor, Julia thought she had a long life ahead of her. But then the unthinkable happens, and she passes away after a cancer diagnosis. While Julie could have followed the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel, she instead had the opportunity to observe her family one final summer at their Fire Island home.

She’ll see how her novelist husband Ben and neighbor Shep navigate grieving as new widowers, along with the lives of their other friends and neighbors.

The Book Girls Say…

While we wish this weren’t true, too many families have to deal with an unexpected diagnosis and loss. Instead of focusing on Julia’s decline, this character-driven novel gives us a unique perspective of seeing a summer she would have been a part of on Earth. While the pages are full of grief at times, you’ll also find plenty of humorous moments throughout the captivating writing.

This is a great pick if you enjoyed Eliza Starts a Rumor, also by Jane L. Rosen, or Golden Girl by Elin Hilderbrand. Readers also enjoy the Jewish representation throughout.

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While Emily dreams of making a living as an artist, at 35, she’s still working at her grandmother’s Vermont inn. She tends to play it safe and is the only one in her friend group who hasn’t tried to summit the mountain in their hometown of Crescent Falls, Vermont.

Diana is a go-getter and so close to being next in line as CEO of her father’s hotel chain. Everything in her life is following her careful plans…until she meets an alluring artist on a Vermont mountain.

Emily and Diana’s passion for each other grows quickly…until they realize that Diana is in town to buy Emily’s grandmother’s beloved inn.

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Nova is a 33-year-old end-of-life doula, and her job is to help terminally ill patients make peace with their impending death. Unlike her business partner, Nova doesn’t shy away from difficult cases – including those with challenging personalities or those who are young. 

Mason is one of the heartbreakingly young. He’s a 36-year-old indie-favorite singer-songwriter who recently vanished from the public eye. He tells Nova that his condition is getting worse, and with limited use of his hands and arms, it’s becoming impossible for him to do the thing he loves most. Life as he knows it is over, but he doesn’t know how to say goodbye.

Nova knows that helping Mason will be her biggest challenge yet, especially because she’s finding it hard to maintain a professional distance. Before long, Mason’s mom comes knocking at Nova’s door… and reporters are not far behind.

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This new novel has been described as A Star is Born meets Me Before You, and the musical component is said to really help to tie the whole story together. 

A number of states have passed Death with Dignity Laws in recent years that allow “medical aid in dying” under very specific guidelines. End-of-life doulas, on the other hand, can’t provide medical intervention or assist in the death process. Their role is to care for the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of a terminally ill patient. End-life-doulas can also help with planning for things like hospice and funerals. While this is a fairly new concept in the United States, in many cultures this type of support has always been an integral part of the dying process.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.3 out of 5
97%
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When Valentia was a teenager, her mother, Eloise, abandoned her and her father to start a new life in London. Now in her 30s, Val is a librarian and recently divorced. As she reevaluates her life, she realizes that the lack of closure with her mother is still nagging at her. But in a bittersweet twist of fate, Val learns that her mother has passed away before they’ve had a chance to reconcile.

Val is surprised to discover that Eloise left her a Primrose Hill apartment and the deed to a bookshop that Val never knew her mom owned. Determined to piece together a better understanding of Eloise’s life, Val decides to leave Seattle for a fresh start in London. It doesn’t take long for her to fall in love with the pastel-colored flat in a cozy neighborhood, not to mention the quaint bookstore. Unfortunately, she soon learns that The Book Garden is in financial trouble.

Told from a dual-timeline perspective, this book explores Valentia’s new life in London, as well as her mother’s past and what happened when she left her daughter behind.

The Book Girls Say…

Although the cover of this 2022 release says “sweet rom-com,” this is actually more of a feel-good story about mothers, daughters, and friendship with minimal romance.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.3 out of 5
99%
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Book Summary

Lydia has a comfortable life in Acapulco as the wife of a journalist and the mother of an 8-year-old little boy. However, when her husband publishes a story about the newest drug lord bringing trouble to town, they become targets of a cartel. After hiding while many family members are massacred, they have to get out of the country for any hope of safety.

Lydia and Luca begin a harrowing journey to the US that will leave you on the edge of your seat. You’ll feel their fear along the way, making the book both suspenseful and heartbreaking as they make the journey of their lives.

The Book Girls Say…

When this book was published, it came with understandable criticism because it was not written by an OWN voices author. The author received significantly more money and publicity than books written by authors with Mexican heritage and first-hand experience of the journey.

Much of the criticism was aimed at the publishing industry versus the author’s writing, and the story has deeply impacted many readers. Readers often say their eyes were opened to aspects of immigration they hadn’t previously considered and increased their empathy, so we are including it. However, we recommend combining your reading of the fictional American Dirt with an OWN memoir, such as A Dream Called Home by Reyna Grande.

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Book Summary

Nura is a thirty-one-year-old third-generation matchmaker in Atlanta with an exclusive clientele and an excellent track record. While she occasionally gets hate mail from those she doesn’t take on as clients, she is blindsided by a cascading chain of increasingly terrifying events and realizes someone is taking things too far.

Although she’s still single herself, Nura’s childhood best friend Azar plays the role of her fiance at a wedding so her clients don’t think she’s failing at her own love life. Luckily, he’s also willing to help her get to the bottom of the threats against her business.

The Book Girls Say…

While the cover of this book looks like a rom-com, it’s more of a mystery and thriller combined with romance and best for readers who enjoy both genres.

Readers enjoy a peak into the characters’ Pakistani-American life and the elaborate Desi weddings of her clients.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.3 out of 5
96%
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Book Summary

Brett seems to have it all – a good job, a spacious loft, and a handsome boyfriend. Her life checks all the boxes of where she thinks she’s supposed to be at thirty-four years old. But according to who?

When her mom passes away, Brett is surprised to learn that her inheritance comes with one major stipulation. She must first complete the list of life goals that she penned at the young age of fourteen. She can’t understand what her mom was thinking. Her teenage goals certainly don’t line up with her adult ambitions, and some of them seem downright impossible.

How can she have a relationship with her father, who passed away seven years ago? And how can she become an awesome teacher when she picked a completely different career path?

She reluctantly sets out on the journey her mother has laid before her, and along the way, she’ll discover that sometimes the best things come from unexpected places, and it’s never too late to reinvent your life!

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.1 out of 5
94%
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Book Summary

Struggling novelist and divorced mom of two, Finlay Donovan is BARELY holding things together. Each day has new challenges, like her ex-husband firing the nanny with no warning right before an important meeting.

Money is running out, and her next novel is way behind schedule. While meeting with her agent and attempting to buy more time, she receives a mysterious envelope with an offer of quick cash in exchange for a job.

Desperation and intrigue lead her to follow up with the number on the note, and before she knows what’s happening, she’s kind of agreed to be a contract killer for a woman with a truly terrible husband. Whoops.

The Book Girls Say…

While the synopsis sounds pretty dramatic, this book is definitely witty and hilarious versus gory or scary. It’s filled with twists and turns that will keep you turning the pages and unable to put it down!

Keep in mind that this isn’t intended to be a realistic crime book, and you have to suspend your disbelief at points and just enjoy the ride. It’s perfect for fans of the Stephanie Plum series by Janet Evanovich.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.2 out of 5
93%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

Nora has decided she is done. Done with the way her life is going. In a moment of darkness, she attempts suicide, but she finds herself in the Midnight Library between life and death. The shelves go on and on, and inside each book is a life that she could have lived, had she made just one different choice somewhere along the way – from following dreams to pursuing different careers to undoing old breakups.

Each time she opens a book, she finds herself living that alternate life, and she is faced with the decision of whether she wants to permanently exchange her life for a new one. As she visits these alternate realities, she’ll have to decide not only which life she wants, but also what makes life worth living in the first place.

The Book Girls Say…

Some find this book to be too predictable – and it’s true that the synopsis of the book tells you exactly what to expect. However, this is a book that will really make you think – not just about Nora’s choices and regrets, but also about your own.

As mentioned, this book does deal with suicide contemplation. However, we believe by the end, you’ll be left positively contemplating life.

Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

3.9 out of 5
100%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

Neighbors Celeste and Wendy are both moms. As far as they can tell, that’s the only thing they have in common – other than their mutual disdain for each other!

Celeste is a stay-at-home mom who spends her days volunteering and creating a Pinterest-worthy life that makes other moms despise her. Wendy is a career-driven working mom who lives by her minute-to-minute schedule as she balances her business and keeps things afloat at home.

After a bit too much sangria at a softball potluck, Celeste and Wendy wake up in each other’s bodies – Freaky Friday style. Soon everything they thought they knew about the other is turned upside down. Their messy lives are about to get a whole lot more complicated, but along the way, they’ll discover they might not be so different after all.

The Book Girls Say…

This book is a heartwarming reminder – presented in a laugh-out-loud funny package – that we shouldn’t be so quick to judge one another and that parenting and adulting are easier when we have each other’s backs!

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

3.9 out of 5
95%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

Artist Celestial and young corporate executive Roy are newly married, and all signs point toward them having a happy, successful life. However, everything goes wrong one night in a hotel when someone accuses Roy of a crime that Celestial knows was impossible. 

Despite their protests, Roy is convicted and sentenced to 12 years in prison. In the beginning, she holds strong to their love. After five years, Roy’s conviction is overturned and he returns to Atlanta, ready to pick up right where they left off. However, Celestial’s life has been moving forward while he was away, leaving everyone in a tough situation.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.2 out of 5
97%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

Lauren and Ryan were college sweethearts. They’ve been together for 11 years and married for six, but now, in their early 30s, they’ve grown apart. Their marriage is at a breaking point, but they aren’t ready to call it quits. Instead, they’ve come up with a plan – they’ll take one year apart in hopes that at the end of the year, they’ll find a way to fall in love again. There is just one rule – during their year off, they cannot contact each other. Other than that, anything goes.

Told from Lauren’s perspective, you’ll join her for her year of self-discovery. Her friends and family all have their own ideas about the meaning of marriage. As the year goes on, she questions everything she thought she knew about love and lust, loyalty and commitment.

The Book Girls Say…

Before Taylor Jenkins Reid became a household name with books like Daisy Jones & the Six, she wrote a number of excellent and nuanced books about relationships and marriage.

One of our readers said: “This book is a real tearjerker. I learned so much about what people go through when a marriage may or may not work out in the end. My heart felt broken for both spouses throughout the book.”

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Book Summary

After her husband sent an unsolicited personal photo to another woman that quickly went viral among every mom group in Charleston, thirty-something Magnolia “Mack” Bishop is facing divorce and single motherhood. But she’s determined not to let her personal life get in the way of her professional interior design ambitions.

Mack is close to securing the prestigious Historic Preservation Design Fellowship, but after a series of calamities at a house tour, her shot at the fellowship goes up in flames. Her mom – the original Magnolia Bishop, who enjoys her perch at the top of the Southern social ladder, swoops in with a lead on a big project to save Mack. But it comes with strings attached, which is of no surprise to Mack, given how much her mom likes to control her life.

Mack dreads working for her mom until a television network puts out a call for local designers. She sees the opportunity to pitch the project and potentially win the renovation and historic preservation TV pilot of her dreams. But she’ll have to keep it secret in order to avoid interference from her mother.

Just when she’s starting to get her professional life back on track, the man who got away starts unloading a moving truck next door. Fifteen years earlier, she had a summer romance with Lincoln Kelly, but then he followed his dreams to New York and left Mack brokenhearted.

The Book Girls Say…

This debut novel is described as Sweet Magnolias meets Fixer Upper with a good mix of mother-daughter drama and second-chance romance.

Early readers say this book will completely transport you to Charleston, where the streets and homes come alive like characters. If you enjoy audiobooks, the narrator’s accent is said to add to the story.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.2 out of 5
94%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

Bea is a plus-sized fashion blogger tired of watching casts full of size 0 models. After a drunken post about the un-realness of the reality dating show, Main Squeeze, she gets a shocking call asking HER to be the next star of the show.

Can she trust the male contestants with her heart or is it safer to remember she’s on the show largely for her career? As the season progresses throughout the book, you’ll be rooting for Bea to find love.

The Book Girls Say…

We both loved this one and enjoyed that the story varies between the actual narrative/ standard book format and snippets of podcast dialog, emails, etc about the show as fans watched. All the aspects came together and served as a great way to help your brain fully engage in the story.

The storyline blending reality TV, blogging, and the push to stop judging based on traditional beauty standards is fun and an excellent representation of the life contemporary 30-somethings grew up with.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.4 out of 5
100%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

At 36, Phronsie is running out of time to create the family she longs for. So when her childhood friend suggests that they both give up on romance and marry each other, it’s a tempting offer. But, as fate would have it, the moment they announce their engagement, another possibility enters the picture. 

Phronsie’s always been a mix of genes that came from her hippie mom and rational dad. Which side will win out when it comes to love?

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Book Summary

Successful food writer Nina expected her 30s to be liberating, but at 32, she’s finding life quite stressful. She’s been focused on her career and enjoying her younger years, but now it seems everyone is moving on without her. From ex’s finding new love to best friends having babies and leaving London to the suburbs, she feels like her own opportunities for a family are slipping away. 

On top of that, her parents are becoming more of a concern. Her dad is slipping into the grasp of dementia, and her mom is having her own identity crisis.

The Book Girls Say…

While this book is categorized as a rom-com as Nina tries to find love, it’s much more than that. Single reviewers in this age group commonly state that they felt very seen reading the book and that it’s the perfect glimpse into this stage of life.

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Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book

4.3 out of 5
94%
Would Recommend to a Friend

Book Summary

Robbie is a 35-year-old math genius and well-known philanthropist who is also quite reclusive. When he gets a terminal diagnosis, he doesn’t want the world to know. As Robbie considers his remaining time on Earth, he begins planning how to change the lives of his three oldest friends – Blair, Cat, and Wade. 

To share his news, he invites them to Fenwick Island, where he plans to fill them in on his plans for their lives. However, Robbie isn’t the only one of these high school friends with a secret. Can Robbie’s plans really help once he knows more about each situation?

The Book Girls Say…

While the concept of his book and the main character’s impending death sounds depressing, readers actually describe it as witty, touching, uplifting, and funny.

Other Books to Consider

If you are specifically interested in reading books with 30+ characters that are set in a different part of the world, we recommend taking a look at our Book Voyage reading lists, which are organized by region. Additionally, if you’re looking for a book that provides a historical perspective, our Decades Challenge reading lists, which cover the 1910s through the present, are a great place to start!

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Book Lists By Character Age

Links to our book recommendations for all twelve of the Lifetime of Reading challenge prompts can be found below:

Modern Adulthood in Your 30s

In today’s society, many view your 20s as a dress rehearsal for adulthood, which makes your 30s the real performance. While your twenties may come with a sense of comfort knowing it’s ok to make mistakes and restarts as you determine who you want to be and where you want to go in life, once you enter your thirties, there’s an expectation to achieve many of the traditional milestones of “adulthood” – including building a more impressive resume, settling down with a life partner, starting a family, and buying a home. 

While the baby boomer generation typically started their families younger, the average age for first-time parenthood is now between 31 and 32 in most major cities. And the average age of first-time homebuyers is 32 – pushed later by factors like increasing college debt and incomes that are lower relative to those that boomers and Gen Xers received at the same point in their lives. 

Of course, no two experiences are the same, and this traditionally laid out path of homeownership, marriage, and family isn’t for everyone. But those who decide to go a different route, or who simply haven’t settled on their direction yet, often feel immense pressure from older generations to explain themselves when don’t conform to societal expectations by the time they are in their 30s.

Despite its challenges and pressures, the thirties are also a very good time of life for many people! By our thirties, we know ourselves better and often feel more comfortable in our own skin. Your 20s may have been spent slaving away with long hours and low pay, but by your 30s that hard work is often starting to pay off – allowing for more optimism and less stress. One study found that people begin to find true happiness in life around age 33 due to a combination of still living in the moment, but also worrying less.


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  1. I heartily endorse “When Breath Becomes Air.” I would appreciate having a feature when your readers had comments/endorsements on books they have already read from the list

    1. Angela Rathbun says:

      @Charlene, we agree that it’s so helpful to have feedback from other readers! We invite readers (via our email list and our Facebook group) to fill out a book log (survey) about the books they read from our lists and provide us with their rating as well as their comments. We then update the book descriptions on our lists to include reader comments (typically within the “Book Girls Say…” you’ll see notes like, “readers say this book starts a bit slow, but it’s totally worth sticking with.”)

      Once we’ve compiled the ratings from the book logs, we also come back to update the lists to include the overall reader rating and percent who recommend the book to a friend. The Lifetime of Reading challenge is new this year, so we don’t yet have the reader ratings yet when the lists are first published, but we will come back and add that info over time. If you look at the book recommendation lists for our other challenges (The Decades Reading Challenge and the Book Voyage Challenge), you’ll see that many off the books have a rating in this format below the book description:

      Book Girls’ Readers Rate This Book ⭐⭐⭐⭐ 1/2
      100% Would Recommend to a Friend

  2. Thanks again for a great list. Not overly weighted toward Rom-Com, which this age range could lead to, the list includes some really significant books that deal with important issues like immigration, trans-gender life, Autism, and end-of-life care.